Just Raven

Who hasn’t had to deal with

MISERABLE

ROTTEN

BACK STABBING

EGO FONDLING

GOSSIPY

DRAMA QUEEN:shock: AND QUEERS:roll:

types of people at work and in everyday life??

CERTAIN mortals have the power to sink hearts and sour moods with lightning speed. The hysterical colleague. The meddlesome neighbor. The crazy in-law. The explosive boss. A mélange of cantankerous individuals, they are united by a single achievement: They make life miserable.

Hmmm….I know a few people who have the ability to make my mood go APESHITTIN pissy in about 2 seconds flat…all I have to do is SEE them and downhill it goes from there.

You call them jerks, dolts and nitwits. Psychologists call them “difficult people.” In fact they are difficult in so many ways that they have been classified into species like the Complainer, the Whiner and the Sniper, to name but three.

Yea? I call them assholes and shitheads. Right in their faces. And I don’t care WHO they are and what special position of power they think they hold over me. PFFT. No need to beat around the bush with these losers. Just tell them to shut up and go away.
(Works for me anyway…):shock:

But in an age when no problem goes unacknowledged or unaddressed, living with such people is no longer the only choice. Instead, an industry of books and seminars has sprung up, not to help the difficult change their maddening ways, but to help the rest of us cope with them.

Bulloney. Who needs to read a damn book or go to some dumb ass seminar just to learn how to tell someone to go F OFF?? People spend WAY too much money and time on this silliness. Really.

The lessons include common sense (talk it out and put yourself in their shoes), character by character tactical road maps and something that the victims of the difficult don’t want to hear: they might be the problem.

Puleeeze. Bore me no more here. Tactical road maps?? THIS ISN’T the Israeli’s and the Pallies, people. This is you and assarts who make you’re life miserable. JUST. TELL. THEM. OFF.

Whatever the reason, “difficult people” gurus are in demand. That is perhaps because everyone knows at least one person who can set the blood boiling. They can be found in corporate offices, on co-op boards, in church choirs and on university faculties. They are the office Cassandra who predicts doom for every project her team initiates, the intimidating boss for whom nothing is ever good enough and the unreasonable receptionist at the motor vehicles office.

Difficult People Guru’s are probably very difficult people themselves. But they manage to pass out advice and make money on it- who knows if they’re right or wrong and WHO CARES??? We don’t need to pay someone to grow us some balls! People have become to soft and sensitive and unable to be frank, blunt and honest.

Yet, some scholars say, the problem is not the difficult people themselves. It is you.

I believe there is a certain amount of truth to this. It’s all in how we perceive these idiOts, these low life JERK OFF’s who so annoy us. I also think if people had enough confidence in themselves and didn’t live under politically correct rules of people-to-people engagement, we would be much more upfront with others. I have gotten into trouble for telling people LIKE IT IS…for being BLUNT, HONEST AND UPFRONT. I’m still standing. I still have my job (16 years now…) I still have my friends. LOL…
I’ve told them ALL off too- bosses, Presidents at my work, Board Of Director types, cops, town selectmen, Senators, friends, family and yes even my dog and cats.

But psychologists say people exhibit difficult behavior because they have a need that is not being met. Understanding that need — a colleague may be snappish, for instance, because his personal life is in turmoil — helps take the sting out of his or her actions, they say.

Bite me. Excuses. That’s all this is. I could care less what problem Joe Blow is having at home- when he’s at work he better be doing his fair share without complaint…and he better be doing it right! If he needs to blow off steam, it’s ok on a break or something. BUT don’t come to work and treat ME like SHIT cause I will bite back. There are exceptions to this of course…I worked with a lady who was being hit all the time at home and she had the bruises to prove it, fresh everyday. She was a BITCH.
I confronted her and told her off…and she just fell apart and let it all out. She never had a better friend after this, and her work ethic grew ten fold over the next few weeks.

Workplaces are competitive environments comprising individuals with disparate styles of working and communicating. With so many temperaments thrown together, every office is a powder keg.

Yea? It’s all the bosses fault when things get like this. Straighten out the boss and this shit don’t happen.

People skills are important. So long as we don’t allow others to control our moods to the point we can’t function. Those who hold power over us think they can manipulate us into behaving certain ways. NOT IN MY WORLD. I don’t tolerate this bullshit. No one should. There’s always a better job. Or better friends. Or whatever…no one needs to be in the company of those who make them miserable.